I recently got married. I am very happy with my wife. She is a wonderful woman.
My kids don’t want to see me at the moment. I’m not sure how long that will continue for. I want to write about it, but I need to make sure I strike the right kind of balance and allow some perspective.
My kids are wonderful. They are not in a good situation. When they wanted to see me more often and were courageous enough to say so in front of their mother, her response was a flat “I don’t want you to spend more time with your dad”. Now that they don’t want to see me, her response is an equally balanced “That’s fine by me, don’t see him for as long as you wish.”
It’s a bitter-sweet time, but having weighed everything up, I feared it might be this way.
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Poo Poo Head 06.23.06 at 6:51 pm
I have been reading your blog for a while but first time I am leaving comment.
I am not sure is it a good idea to leave comment for some one family matter.
Some where I read that “the best gift father could give his kids is to love and respect his wife. ” I guess you person like you could figure it out easily what does it mean ?
Checkmate 06.24.06 at 4:49 am
From your post I can safely assume that you are divorced from the mother of your children. Children are the ones who suffer the most in such situations. I can say that from personal experience. Not being able to see a parent as much as you would like too is traumatic, guilt generating and plain hard. I hope you guys work a way around it. Because I still feel guilty about not being with my farther when he passed away.
If I mis-understood your post my apologies. and congratualtions!
The Olive Ream 06.24.06 at 7:24 am
Bro, this post is very personal for me to comment on in public but I am pretty sure you know what I think. Hope all else goes well.
me 06.24.06 at 10:57 pm
Congrats on your recent wedding!!!!!
Im assuming from your post that your children are quite young, I dont know the reason why they have decided not to keep contact with you, sincerest advice i can give you is to keep steadfast in prayer and let them know they are always welcome in your life and your home and that they are also part of the new family you have created. Remember they are children and at a time like this even adults begin to wonder what their place is, they need assurance of your love and their belonging, im betting that they feel very insecure and have decided not to keep in contact with you by way of a defence mechanism…….they risk rejection but you cant reject them if they have already rejected you.
hope this helps
Good luck
God Bless